Ayesha’s Blog

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. ~ Martin Luther ~

I weds A

A completely new life started for me on Wednesday 20th April when I signed Nikkahnama and started to realize that life isn’t the same at all.. the very next moment I started feeling more responsible.. more careful.. more respectful.. and what not ?

Your heart starts beating for someone who is going to be yours forever and ever.., going to be there when you need and even when you don’t , someone who is going to be your best friend, supporter, motivator, companion.. inshort soul mate

Mom has always been worried for me, yeah I know every mom gets worried if its a boy or a girl.. but in my case mom was extra worried.. since I have this cute disorder with me [Thalassemia] . She had this fear that I may stay single through out the life. After Salman she was more cautious for me.. got more worried that what will happen to me if God forbid she dies.. *moun mein khaak*

To be very frank watching friends/cousins getting engaged/married even when they are younger than me, made me worried too.. but then I couldn’t show it to mom so these were the words I use to say to calm her and my innerself.. “maa, aap ki soch aik maa ki hai.. WOH 70 maa’on ke barabar mere liye soch raha hai.. bus thora sa intezar karna hai.. [Mom, you think like one mother.. but HE is thinking for me like 70 mothers.. we just have to wait]

Sometimes it does help.. but since we don’t have patience.. mom was used to get tensed.. and all of a sudden within a month I got married . Mom got this proposal.. did all the investigation.. and got me engaged on 3rd April.. and without wasting time mom got me married in 17 days

Aaah!, don’t ask about the panic, stress, tension etc etc.., mom just wanted me to get married as soon as possible *it felt like she is tired of me :p*, just after 3rd April all the preparations started taking place..

Contacting cook, decorations, bridal, beauty-parlor and what not!, it was really hard for us to get things done without brothers and father.. I remember at the time of my elder sister’s wedding my dad took care of everything.. and in my case I had to look after from A to Z

Since I promised my mom after Salman that am her beta [son], so had to prove myself , it was really hectic for me to act like a bride, to get things done, to take care of mom, in short to take care of everything..

I can’t forget how our neighbors and friends helped us.. from arrangements to my rukhsati they tried their best to make me forget that my brothers and father are not there.. they proved themselves like real brothers

I don’t think there have been any bride who would be roaming in the bazaar for things/bridal/etc, talking to cook over phone, talking to decorators etc for her own wedding ;p I even tease my mom for that

It says All’s Well That Ends Well, so in short I no longer can say that am single :p *haye maa.. kyun cheen li azadi* =)

Request for prayers

-Ayesha Mehmood